Your Ideal Body Shape: Are You Letting A Tiny Group Of People Dictate You?

Everybody has their own idea of what a perfect body “should” look like. Most women have an ideal body shape stamped on their mind.

Nothing wrong with that, is there?

But, the problem is – their body will never naturally look like that much-desired “ideal” shape. Not even with the most intense exercise and the craziest diet.

Many women have this idea that an “hourglass” figure is the most attractive. Or they need long legs to look great. Or big breasts to look sexy. And the list goes on.

Many fitness trainers know this, of course. So, they promise results using words like “long and lean body”, “bootylicious”, “curvy” and so on.

I have a workout DVD where the instructor keeps saying “you’ll wake up with long and lean body.”

Excuse me! … I’m not tall. I definitely don’t have long legs. Unless he’s predicting I’m going to bump into a witch who’ll give me a potion to magically lengthen my legs.

Otherwise, no matter how crazily I exercise, will I end up with long and lean body?

Lean? Perhaps. But long? Never!

Well … thanks to regular exercise and healthy diet though, I’ve now reached my ideal body weight and built up the best shape I can possibly have. But I’ll never have that “hourglass” figure. I’ll never be a “curvy girl.” That’s not how my frame is built.

Even though I’ve been in the ideal shape by my body’s standard for a few years now, only recently have I managed to feel really pretty.


Because I used to let the media dictate the image of what my ideal body shape should be if I really wanted to be seen as beautiful. I somehow got it in my head: “I need to be taller. I need to be more curvy. I need to have bigger breasts (since I’m almost completely flat-chested).”

After all those hard workouts, I still felt my body looked as if it was missing something. Sure, I felt much better as a result of getting in shape. But still I felt that my body wasn’t up to the mark. That feeling was like having a terminal disease.

Seriously I was even considering breast implants because I felt ashamed of my flat chest. Going under the knife and risking all those side effects and pain just so that I could fit in with the perceived ideal body shape?

Looking back now I can see how silly it all was.

Who defines this beauty anyway? A tiny number of people who publish women’s magazines and photos? Celebrities?

Besides, we only get to see these people in their best light anyway. Of course they look perfect. But do we know what they really look like in their own home without any of that make-up, hair-do and expensive dresses? At some point they have to peel off those outfits and make-up – and leave their lighting technician. When they do, I bet they look quite ordinary.

So, why on earth do we compare ourselves with those unreal images? Why do we feel unattractive comparing ourselves with images that really don’t exist?

It’s crazy, isn’t it?

So what if I’m flat chested?

The most serious “ill” effect I’ll have is that some guys won’t find me attractive. But then do I really want to be attracting guys who like me because I have big breasts? Would I be able to have a meaningful relationship with anybody who wanted me for that superficial reason?

Very unlikely!

Yet, I had those moments of doubt about my own beauty. I had moments when I felt too short, too small, too flat chested, and my face was too chubby and my body even too thin.

I still have those moments. But nowhere near as often as before. Those moments are usually triggered by seeing perfect-looking models on magazines, TV and posters. And sometimes seeing another woman who fits my idea of “perfect.”

But I now have a mechanism for coping with this. Now what I do is remember how I’m letting other people dictate my ideal look. And how silly the whole thing is. Then I laugh at myself and quickly put the whole thing out of my head.

I admit I haven’t been able to do that all my life. But these days, I guess I’m getting more mature and enlightened after years of trying to cope with my bad body image.

At the end of the day, who cares if you’re too short, too tall, too fat, too pear-shaped etc? The majority of people don’t even care whether you exist or not. They’re too busy worrying about their own issues anyway. None of them would have time to be thinking about you or judging you. Why should you give a damn what they think of you?

The only people that matter are those who love and like you for who and what you are.

You don’t need to look perfect to be loved and liked by people. You really don’t need to look perfect to be attractive.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t try to get in shape if you’re overweight. I’m not telling you to stay as you are even if you have quite a bit of unwanted belly fat. I’m not saying that at all.

You ought to get into your ideal body composition. Not only will you look and feel your best, you’ll add years to your life.  If you don’t know what your ideal body composition should be, check this: What Is A Healthy Body Fat Percentage For You?

Once you reach your ideal body composition, you’ll be in the best shape your body allows you.

That’s it.

No more. No less.

You’ve done your best. You should be proud of yourself regardless of whether you measure up to society’s “ideal body shape” or not.

Don’t try to copy somebody else’s body shape. That’s just insulting yourself. It’s like saying what you have is not good enough. That’s why you have to copy what somebody else has.

Just get into your very own ideal body shape by exercising regularly and eating right.

You can definitely get in the best shape of your life by following simple exercise routines.

On this site, you can find lots of routines you can do in the comfort of your own home.

Click here to find Absolutely No Equipment Toning Program.

If you have a dumbbell or two and a swiss ball, try this 4 Week Program.

If you just want a very short workout or two, you’ll find several Fat Loss Workouts here.

Remember, the goal is to get into your own ideal body shape, not somebody else’s.

Once you achieve that, maintain it and cherish it. You’ll look absolutely attractive in your own way. Definitely not somebody else’s.

Be proud of your body and have a great day. :-)

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